Life is like a good round of golf. Some of the same attitudes and rules apply to both golf and marriage.
Whether you golf to get away or to reconnect, time with a spouse on the links can add a great deal of enjoyment to your life, as well as to your spouse’s. Here are some simple tips and suggestions for playing golf with your spouse:
Loosen up. Don’t squeeze your golf club or you’ll lose accuracy and distance of the hit. Bring that same relaxed attitude to your marriage, especially when you’re on the course. It should not be a competition between you and your spouse. Relax and enjoy the game, and your spouse.
Keep looking up. Even if you’re playing the worst game of your life, keep a positive attitude. Keeping that positive outlook in your marriage is very beneficial as well. Look at your spouse’s new skills and let him or her know you’re watching. When you start to pick at their game you create conflict that will go well beyond the last hole, that’s not something you want to do.
Fix those divots. Golfing creates divots, or holes, wherever you play. Repairing the green is usually quick and easy. Fixing the divots of a marriage aren’t always quite as simple, but worth it all the same. You might not be able to fix all the problems in one round of golf, take your golf time to bring them up.
Laugh often and together. In addition to releasing endorphins, laughing creates a light, friendly mood. It will relax your spouse and encourage him or her to be more open to discussion, serious or playful.
Connect. Not only will your clubs be connecting with the balls on the greens, your hearts will be connecting as well. Reminisce about your first date, first dance and first vacation together. Reconnect with your loved one.
Play by the rules. You wouldn’t want your golf partner to break the etiquette rules of the golf course and your spouse is no different. Remember that “playing through” the game of golf can transfer to your marriage as well…let your partner play through by completing his or her thought before you continue with yours. It may not always feel fair, it’s the rule of the game… of golf, that is.
Share bag space. Unless you are both seasoned pros with different sets of clubs, bring one set of clubs to carry around.
Don’t keep score. How about a game just-for-fun? No need to put undo stress on your game – or marriage. Just enjoy your day outside, soaking up the sun and spending time with your loved one.
Playing golf with your spouse can be a wonderful way for you to reconnect. Plan a tee time that works for both of you and even consider asking another couple along from time to time. It’s a great way to not only share a day but you’ll also enjoy the benefits of being outdoors. Finding something that you both like to do can strengthen any marriage. Why not see if golf can do that for you?